i want to lie on your chest and listen to you talk
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Let’s do it every day
We do it everyday Daddy!!!!
When He grabs you by the pussy and says “Whose?”. Then makes you cum through your pants….
That.
𝓓𝓒𝓝 ❤︎
Unless she is a brat and says mine. Then I have to show her who’s boss :)
Yes please Daddy…..
Dominant Maintenance
We see a lot of information about caring for s-types. About maintenance spankings, about making them feel wanted, needed, and loved. But what about us D-types? We’re supposed to be the strong ones, the ones that keep it together, that have to be the rock in the relationship. That’s our responsibility, right? Of course it is, but even the largest of rocks are vulnerable to the erosions of time.
In real life power exchange relationships, with family, vanilla friends, coworkers and children around you every day, you typically have to cloak your protocols at some level or the other. After time, that cloaking starts to become the norm, and at least for me, I need a break from it. I need some time with just myself and my slave, in private, to remove the cloak. I need her naked at my feet, looking up at me with those eyes that tell me every ounce of her belongs to me. All the cloaks and hiding gone. To be able to make her crawl to me, beg me to use her, take my time, exercise my patience, and re-energize our dynamic. I need to be able to take her to dinner and order her food. Let her feel kept, and remind myself that I’m the one keeping her.
I don’t use such terms very often, as I’m not a spiritual man, but I’m blessed with a wonderful slave, who believes in me more than any other person I’ve ever known. I know that she belongs to me, that I own her heart and soul. Of that I need no reassurance. We do our best to practice our dynamic on a day to day basis. But sometimes I just need that little extra that comes from having time alone. I call that time dominant maintenance.
This is excellent. Submissives aren’t the only ones who need regular “maintenance” to keep their focus sharp and their Dominance on point.
Maintenance Therapy (the essay formerly known as “Maintenance Discipline”)
A PM from a Follower, abstracted in the interests of privacy …
“Question. Do you think there are times when I could actually request being beaten till I cry? In a sort of “mental health” kind of way? Am I making sense?“
You’re making perfect sense. In some dynamics, the girl has to “act out” or “act up” to get a beating. It winds up being framed as “punishment.” with all the negativity that entails. Ain’t nobody got time for that! I prefer “maintenance therapy.” It offers several advantages:
It is regular and predictable. The Dom sets up a schedule – weekly, perhaps – where his girl will be given maintenance therapy, using whatever methods are most effective for her. There is no need for her to act out, because she knows she just has to keep it together until her next maintenance session. And for those really high-stress weeks, she can ask permission for an unscheduled one-off maintenance session.
It is not punishment. Punishment tends to bring a lot of negative emotional baggage with it. When done as “maintenance,” it is understood to be “therapeutic” (”mental health,” as you put it) which carries much more positive emotions and thoughts.
No drama. Many D/s dynamics seem to work as follows. Girl acts out. Dom administers punishment. Girl gets the pain she craves. Seems godawful drama-intensive to me! I hate acting out/acting up. If a girl needs pain, she should be able to get it without all that drama and bullshit.
It strengthens the connection. When her Dom gives her “the gift of tears,” and after she kneels with her head in his lap sobbing, the catharsis forges and strengthens that special intimacy that is the hallmark of the best D/s relationships
Ten Things a Dom Expects a sub to know without being told
(this piece needed some cleanup and formatting, so I’m reposting it)
i reblogged a wonderful piece a few days ago, “ten things a sub expects a dom to know without being told.” A really good piece, strong and thought provoking.But as is so often the case here on Tumblr, the emphasis is the same as it is in a porn flick: “It’s all about the girl.” So I decided that this called for a counterpoint to balance the dialectical scales and possibly even spur some discussion. Those who have read the piece I reblogged will recognize some of these 10 items as being more or less identical to the items in that piece. This is by design, and is intended to emphasize that so much of the glue that holds a D/s relationship together is reciprocal.
And so without further ado …
“ten things a dom expects a sub to know without being told”
1. He needs to be the priority. Your Dominant cannot be put in the corner and trotted out when you need him. Make him your priority even during those
times when you think you DON’T need him. Because the truth of it is, even during those times, you secretly do need him, you just aren’t consciously
aware of it.
2. He has emotions and needs them acknowledged. The internet (and Tumblr is especially egregious in this regard) has created the toxic stereotype of
the Dominant as this calm, cold, unemotional Olympian figure who is always as in charge of himself as he is of his submissive. Many a submissive has
run screaming into the night at the sight of her Dominant having a moment of weakness, or self-doubt, or — The Horror! — shedding a tear. Accept that
your Dominant is human, and respect the effort he exerts to be strong and confident for you 99% of the time.
3. Know him better than others. If your Dominant is having emotional difficulties, or even something as “insignificant” as a bad day at the office, you damn well better know it before his friends do.
4. Let him control things (including you). That is his responsibility. Yours is to obey.
5. Abide by the rules. Your Dominant constructs various rules, tasks, rituals, etc, for a purpose. That purpose may not always be obvious to you. It doesn’t have to be. Trust that he knows what he’s doing, and accept the fact that submitting to his rules on a daily basis is just plain hard work. If you’re not willing to put in the work, then you should do some soul-searching and evaluate how deep (or even genuine) your submission really is.
6. Remember that he is yours. This is always reciprocal. Just as he expects your total devotion and commitment and fidelity, you have the right to expect those things from him. To be clear, this is not the same as taking your Dominant for granted. Just as he has to earn those things from you every day, so you also have to earn them from him every day.
7. Appreciate the work he puts into you, and let him KNOW that you appreciate it. Being a dominant (especially in a day-to-day rather than sporadic relationship) is damned hard work. Let him know how much it means to you that he considers you worthy of all that work and direction and energy.
8. Be mindful of your respective positions in the D/s relationship. He is your Dominant. Can you be affectionately playful and impish? Yes; any Dominant who doesn’t relish such from his submissive on occasion has some significant self-confidence issues. Sarcastic or willfully bratty? Not a good idea. Not a good idea AT ALL.
9. Give the same respect you get. If he shows you that, despite the way your relationship might look to the vanillas, he holds you in the highest respect, then return that respect. If you come to the conclusion that he does NOT hold you in the highest respect, you might want to evaluate your relationship and possibly move on.
10. Above all else: he expects your submission to be whole and complete and without reservation, save for those things that the two of you negotiate as equals BEFORE you offer him your submission. Once you submit, he has full right and claim to ALL of you. You don’t get to cherry pick your submission. You don’t get to submit in just those areas where it’s convenient. You don’t get to submit just when you’re in the mood. There are no half-measures with your submission. If you can’t honestly say to yourself that you are all-in, then accept the fact that this means you’re not in AT ALL, and decide what to do about it.
Reblogged at the request of a Follower.
Sometimes people make me so sad and I just wish I could stay with my stuffies.
my hobbies include daydreaming about romance and loving the color pink
degradation is great but praise just gets me so so fucking bad like yes please tell me im doing good please tell me im a gorgeous angel tell me im the best kitten on this planet i need it
I love getting called baby like Yes it’s true I am a baby but most importantly I am Your baby so please say it again
